The Law Offices of Thomas Marola
The Law Offices of Thomas Marola
Call for a Free Consultation 414-395-5654
View Navigation Blog

6 Things that might negatively impact a custody battle

Going through a child custody battle is stressful and can bring up a lot of emotions. Learning how to manage these emotions is going to be vital to your case. It's natural to emotionally react to an issue, especially as they happen. You've never had to deal with a child custody case and have no way of knowing what the process entails.

Here are a few things that could negatively impact your pending child custody case:

Bad-mouthing your ex in front of your kids

No matter how frustrated you become with your ex through the child custody process, it is extremely important to watch what you say around your children. Your ex is still your child's parent and bad-mouthing them is only going to put your children in a difficult position. Don't make your kids feel like they have to choose between you and your ex, it is not their responsibility to fight your battles and it is unfair to make them pick sides.

Fighting in front of your children goes hand-in-hand with bad-mouthing your ex. Try to keep your kids out of the equation when quarreling with your ex, leave the room if you have to or table the fight until you're in a position to talk privately.

Yelling at your kids or ex

Disciplining is part of being a parent but there is a definite line between scolding a child for bad behavior and taking your grievances out on them.

We live in an age where recording videos to capture moments (whether good or bad) is almost expected. Live as though every move you make and every conversation you have is being recorded and could potentially be used against you in court.

Moving in with a new significant other

Your marriage is over and you've met someone else. As tempting as it might be to take your relationship to the next level and move in together, this could have ramifications when battling for custody. Your ex might argue that the safety of the child is in danger because this person does not know how to properly care for children. They could also claim that your new relationship is a distraction that keeps you from effectively performing parental duties.

Pulling kids out of school without notice

If you decide you want to pick your kids up from school or daycare to spend some time with them, make sure your soon-to-be ex has been made aware of this arrangement. Picking them up or pulling them from school unannounced can cause a lot of trouble. A judge might fear that this indiscretion is a sign for future behavior.

Not listening to your children's wishes

As much as you want to believe that you know what's best for your child, it's important to make them feel like they are part of the process. In Wisconsin, a judge will have the final say on how custody is awarded but before doing so they will take the wishes of the children into consideration.

It can be painful to hear who your children would prefer to live with but it could also serve as a wake-up call/learning experience. There is obviously a reason behind their decision; maybe it's necessary to make some parenting changes so your children feel as though their needs are being met by both parents.

Not paying child support

If you have been ordered to pay child support, it's required that you continue to do so throughout the custody battle. Withholding child support payments will reflect very poorly on you and worsen your chances at receiving custody.

No Comments

Leave a comment
Comment Information
Email Us For A Response

Contact Us Today for a Free Case Evaluation

Bold labels are required.

Contact Information

The use of the Internet or this form for communication with the firm or any individual member of the firm does not establish an attorney-client relationship. Confidential or time-sensitive information should not be sent through this form.


Privacy Policy

The Law Offices of Thomas Marola
2230 S. 108th Street
West Allis, WI 53227

Phone: 414-395-5654
West Allis Law Office Map

Back To Top